men and their professions part 2

this is the second installment of my "Men and Their Professions Series". this is just a personal take on the influences of a man's occupation on how he treats his woman. read on.

the manager
he is organized and disciplined. almost like the law enforcer, he is also very careful about showing emotion. because he's a teamleader by profession, he will always take it into his own hands to find solutions. he likes to plan and he likes detail. he gets annoyed with impulsive actions and lacks spontaneity. being with the manager does however, ensure a smooth-sailing getaway trip or party. when he gets amorous, he takes the lead and is always concerned with what you like. he goes all out with presents and always keeps in mind the presentation. if you're a woman who likes being led, the manager will do just that. but if you're a woman who likes to speak her mind, being with the manager usually leads to conflicts in opinion and most often than not, yours gets ignored. a manager's ego is hard to bring down. he will always challenge your opinion, just because that is what they're trained to do. they will question you and they will always come up with reasons. if you attempt to try to assert an opinion, you must be strong-willed and confident enough with your opinion for it to get through.

if you choose to be or are with a manager:
know when to assert yourself and when to say no. like in any office setting, the assertive people get their points across and are heard. staying quiet and shutting up will get you nowhere fast. if you don't like the way he handles your issues like a client, let him know that you want him to listen and that you're not looking for a solution just yet. and in terms of spontaneity, take the initiative instead of waiting for him to do it. surprise him with your delicious homecooking, or give him a backrub. if that doesn't give him the hint, just tell him this is what you want from him and don't keep him guessing. he will appreciate it more than you know.

the cook
the cook is a people-pleaser. he is not immune to criticsm, esp if he has a temper to begin with. he is a perfectionist, an inventor and an artist. he is often very critical of himself and often his confidence is tested by those higher than he is. being with the cook though makes life easier for a woman with a fluctuating self-esteem. every cook friend i have has never said they prefer skinny women, just because it gives them pleasure knowing their ladies enjoy their food. and it would be very hard to stay skinny if you're dating a cook. the cook has a secure outlook of himself, accepting that he is no supermodel himself and that he loves food. his confidence though could be a rollercoaster. one second he receives praises, the next second his souffle is a flop. to be with a cook requires patience and understanding. you would have to understand why he cries over a slightly overcooked tuna ahi when he was aiming for rare.

if you choose to be or are with a cook:
you would need to have a strong stomach and a secure self-image. you would most likely be his guinea pig and you would most likely gain weight because of it. try not to blame him. instead, be supportive of his quest to find the perfect taste. develop a new sense of acquired tastes. try not to be so harsh with his experiments (eg. spitting it out) and if you're familiar with cooking terminology, make suggestions. your tastebuds will be one less thing to worry about in your relationship.

tomorrow, the rockstar and the conclusion to this series.